Monday, August 23, 2010
Females only: Tips on How To Seduce Your Man
1.) Let him do the talking - most women make the mistake of talking too much, which is such the turn off for so many men. Being quiet and listening to him will tell you everything you need to know about him, down to whether or not you even want to seduce this one. You can learn so much about him if you let the man talk without cutting him off or interjecting your "two cents." At the same time, however, be engaged in his conversation and ask him questions, he'' love that you want to get to know him. FInd out what he's into and take notes.
2.) Pick your place wisely - men love when women take the wheel and plan something before the date instead of going through the "what do you want to do? It doesn't matter to me..." conversation. Be decisive but be smart. While you would like to show him that you can hang with the boys and have him meet you a a sports bar, it's not he smartest place to be if you want his attention. Try a lounge or a sexy outdoor patio, a place where your privacy is guaranteed.
3.) Show a little skin, but hide some too - Ladies, shorts skirts and low-cut, cleavage bearing tops are great, but there is great balance between prudence and promiscuity. If you're going to expose the twins, pair the shirt with some sexy jean and heels. Or, if you're in a short skirt or short shorts, wedge heels and a not so breast bearing shirt are best. It leaves you're guy anticipating the visions of what's underneath. Leave something to his imagination!
4.) Drop demure hints - This is when you turn up the heat, a LITTLE. Don't over do it ladies, less is more. While you want your guy to know that you're feeling him and his company, he doesn't need to catch the slightest vibe that you're "easy," game over. Be open, don't fold your arms or clench your fingers. Play with your hair. Caress objects - sounds crazy, right? Save his eyeball from a loose eyelash even if there isn't one, he'll appreciate your subtle touch. However, it's true...be creative, no specifics on this one. Directly face him and lean forward every so often to keep him interested. Play with your lips, bit and wet them, he's watching you. Just remember: Don't overdo it, men love mystery.
5.) Keep the sex talk to a minimum - most guys will test the waters throw a sexual hint, joke or innuendo at some point. This is mainly to gauge your reaction and test the waters. While the normal reaction is to laugh it up or or one up his antics. Try to temper yourself to respond with a sexy stare and smirk. Your brief silence will be golden, and if you mast say anything at all, and "oh, yea?" or simple okay will suffice. No need for a "we'll see" or "I'm going to hold you to that." He'll relish in the idea that you're hard to get.
6.) Never underestimate the power of scent - okay ladies, it is a proven fact that 89% of men believe that scent boosts a man's attraction to a woman. The way you smell is not only an aphrodisiac, it's one of the most subconscious triggers to magnetize your man and is absolutely vital to your seduction success. But here's the trick, do not permeate the room with your favorite perfume, use it sparingly on your wrists, behind your ears and knees, etc. Make it so he has to get close to you to catch your scent, which will have him inching closer to you all throughout your rendezvous, if only to sniff.
7.) Show confidence - there is such a thin line between confidence and arrogance, ladies. If you're that woman who's got the looks to snag any man, chances are you know this and may exude an air of overconfidence. This trait alone could have you nixed with a man who is put off by your "conceited" nature, and never call you again. By all means look the part, but show confidence through your posture. Keep your back straight, shoulders back and chest out. Casually touch or caress his hand, arm or knee when making a point, or if he says something that srikes a chord with you. Confident body language and coy conversation will impress your man effortlessly.
8.) Build excitement and anticipation - flirt with your guys anticipation. Anxious tension, anticipation and excitement are all turn on's for your guy. Remember: NEVER make it easy for him, the thrill is in the chase. Times have changes, but men have NOT. He wants to actively pursue his woman. Tease him by taking a step or two closer to him and take a step back. Sounds corny but, that'll get him going, and if he's the touchy type, he'll tell you he likes you to be close, and will find a way to get closer to you. Or strike up a conversation with a passerby (male), "Hey, where did you get your jacket, my Dad or brother would love one just like it..." This will create just the right amount of jealousy that he won't let you out of his sight, and you will have his undivided attention.
9.) Eye flirt - ladies, the glance and grin will get him every time but you can take it a step further. Once you get a mutual glance, turn away and smile or grin, but follow it up with a deep stare and shyly turn away. Don't eye murder the man, but show your innocence or hidden prowess, make it playful and flirty. The teasing eye contact speaks more than words! Ladies, resist the urge to ask that "what?" question. Just be quiet, sometimes words are unnecessary and kill the mood.
10.) The hardest part of all seduction - do NOT make him feel like he's being seduced. He should be thinking quite the opposite, like he seduced YOU. Ladies, let him have it! He wants to feel like a knight in shining armor who just swept his lady off her feet. Let him have his triumphant moment. Fall back, be a lady and let him be a man without a clue that he's been seduced and you'll get what you want without question.
Have fun mastering the art of seduction!